Gold Night Out Is Coming…
12 years ago
The last thing to share is an anecdote ("The Tango Story") that I hope will allow some of you to avoid running into the same tree I did. To make a long story short, I was in a situation where I did the typical guy thing of puffing up in front of another guy/dancer that I thought was "trying to show me up." As a result... let's just say my partner did not appreciate being pushed around by my overzealous efforts. What Nikki had to explain to me is that women don't usually care how us guys dance, only that we are dancing with them. What I learned about myself (and have learned is an extremely common guy thing) is that guys tend to try harder with those who are most important to us- i.e. spouse, girlfriend, etc. The problem is that the harder we try, the more we get in our own way, and it usually is counterproductive. On the flip side, what can be even more frustrating is that it will seem like we dance better with everyone else but her. It is because we "don't care" about their opinion that we don't try too hard, and often have better success. The best solution to all of this is to remember your priorities. Most likely, you are both here to enjoy dancing with each other. Don't put unnecessary pressure on yourself to be perfect. Lady's, be as encouraging and positive as possible, and guys, just remember she's happy you're holding her in your arms.
Tip # 3: Be TRUSTING to your other half! ESPECIALLY WOMEN! Stop trying to control and "help" him...Give him the chance to do it, he WILL mess up but that is the only way to learn. He's got this! You'll enjoy dancing with him much more in the long run if you do this. ![]() |
| He's not Italian or anything! |
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| Justin and Nikki on the competitive floor. |
Sarah: The Arthur Murray System (or 4 basic movements) are the building blocks of any dance and/or pattern you will ever want to learn. What the Arthur Murray system has done is broken down "dancing" into 4 of the most BASIC movements that most people probably normally do day to day and created a map to turn those "normal" movements into dancing! How cool is that!?! Without these basic movements it would be like someone telling you to go build a sand castle without giving you the pail, shovel or any other tools to complete the task. Once you have taken your very first lesson at Arthur Murray, you have been given ALL the tools (movements) you need to know to be able to learn ANY dance or pattern you desire! It's like Arthur Murray made a system called "Ballroom for Dummies" :-) So, enjoy how easy it is to learn where to put your feet and how quickly you can learn by using the Arthur Murray System! (**Attention Dance Nerds** - It is also very fun to break down patterns and dances you already know into the 4 basic movements! Try it!)
Adriann: The 4 basic movements (walking steps, rock steps, triple steps, side steps) make it simple for anyone, with any background, at any dance or ability level to understand any dance. It's like being given a puzzle with 4 pieces that can be rearranged in any number, in any order to make thousands of different pictures.
Lindsey: This is a GREAT question because throughout the years, I have had this one many times. First let's discuss the function of the group class. Group class is designed to teach balance through figures. The "how?" question is answered by the fact that dancers gain repetition of movement over and over and over again, thus producing muscle memory. The "why" follows by the fact that muscle memory develops confidence within ones own body to do the task at hand. Much like handwriting, when you first learn how to write each letter, it's awkward, misshapen, and takes a while to get into the groove of it. Then next thing you know, someone asks you to write your name and you don't even think twice about it because it's second nature to you. Dancing is no different. You practice the pattern of a box step or a cross body lead, for example, and it seems so bizarre. Then after a few weeks, you think to yourself "oh yeah... That thing that goes like this? Got it!"